Excellent read, as always. Love the objective approach. Oxytocin is an interesting one. It’s released through acts of kindness. It fights addiction and boosts our immune system. I recently heard Erica Komisar talking about the father’s role in tactical engagement with the child, particularly boys. The tossing and roughhousing is extremely beneficial to proper development of certain behavioral areas like resilience, perseverance, and conflict resolution.
re: "for example, in the enrollment drop for students from high-poverty and low-poverty schools: 3% and 11% declines respectively." You have these figures swapped, no? It's 11% high and 3% low?
Start with giving men and boys rights over their cocks.
Ban circumcision, no argument. Iceland tried to, but Americans and Jews in the ADL whined. Now Iceland is set to vote on this again in the future.
We don't even give men rights over their own so called private parts which are not even private to boys and men, and we have the fucking gall to criticize men and boys at all?
This is the place to start, men are not even viewed as humans with basic rights - just disposable workers peons whose genitals are public property in the land of so called freedom and liberty...what a fucking joke.
The Democrats never tried to give men rights over their own dicks or reproductive rights or to have the draft abolished, which it should be.
No political party has ever had compassion for men or tries to give men the same protection and privilege that women have.
Also, marriage law is just financial slavery, as well. The government should not be involved in personal relationships and no one should be forced to pay money to someone that left them or even if they leave them.
It's 2025, it's time for some actual fucking equality.
Tired of these limp wristed weak posers.
For the record, I have a deep disdain for both political parties who knowingly have let men and boys be mutilated, subjected to the draft system or they can't get government jobs, federal financial aid for college or drivers licenses - and not giving men reproductive rights.
It's a shame men are collectively complacent and when men do gather you get feminist protesting outside calling them misogynistic without proof - like when Dr. Warren Farrell held the men's suicide epidemic seminar at a college campus and tons of feminists came to protest them - how compassionate of them...they're absolutely sexist and actively man haters.
You do decent work, man, but you either don't communicate how bad it really is because you don't know, or it's a part of your strategy to get the ball rolling without being shut down. Hopefully it's the second one.
Let's not forget about the circumcision violent male genital mutilation child sexual abuse solely perpetrated upon boys for a hundred years in the so called land of "freedom and liberty" USA, so much freedom yet men don't own their own cocks.
Not to mention all of the disgusting and debased cruel jokes about circumcision and the shaming of foreskin in crappy Hollywood garbage films and banal sitcoms.
Men don't have basic genital integrity and body autonomy for a century in a land where people see themselves as world leaders and the most moral and ethical! Such evil misandrist hypocrisy.
Women talk about my body my choice, and society is blind to the routine sexual mutilation and fight flight freeze trauma that is perpetrated upon baby boys.
Also, women have optional motherhood, but fatherhood is forced and at the mercy of the woman and the state. Men don't have reproductive rights either.
Then there's the male only draft, but I digress.
Circumcision is violent blade rape.
Europe, Japan, the majority of the world - knows better.
That's actual rape culture.
Foregen is a biotech company raising money for the final phase 3 of 3 human trials on GoFundMe.
They are regenerating foreskins through regenerative medicine to reverse circumcision mutilation.
They've already had successful phase 2 animal trials and have received millions on donations.
They're almost ready to be public.
Over 6500+ species of mammals have foreskins, it is not a mistake.
It has the majority of nerve endings and sensitivity of the penis. More pleasure, lubrication, less excessive friction WHICH ACTUALLY REDUCES DISEASE TRANSMISSION! YES, YOU HEARD THAT RIGHT. CIRCUMCISION=MORE FRICTION=MORE MICRO CUTS AND ABRASIONS=MORE HIV TRANSMISSION AND STDs - look it up.
European medical associations know how disgusting and crippling circumcision is.
Iceland almost banned circumcision but the selfish ADL and the USA pressured them not to. They will vote in a few years again to try to ban it again.
I hope they do.
Any culture that circumcises is not ethical or modern, but they are child sexual abusers and traumatizers.
No argument about it.
Also, they sell baby boy foreskin cells online as HFF, neonatal human foreskin fibroblasts, for $500 a vial in Sigma Aldrich and other biotech firms.
Circumcision and foreskin is a billion dollar industry.
Cosmetic companies can test their product on foreskin fibroblasts and then say they are CRUELTY FREE on their packaging! Why! Because they didn't test on the precious animals! Animals that are cared for more than human baby boys.
I see elements of truth throughout the comments. The supremism as PR calls it can be seen in women's dreams, where a war with the masculine side of their psyches is taking place (just as men are often at war with the female side of their psyches). Until this anti masculine bias is rooted out, it will get projected onto the world in many ways, including "supporting boys while holding onto the gains that women have made". Every time I heard those words said with so much earnestness, like the new enlightenment, my nervous system cringes at the shadow. It would be interesting if everyone at the Institute asked for a dream about what they need to know about supporting boys that they do not know, and any adjustments that they may need to make.
The anti-masculine bias also shows up here on Substack with female doctors only expressing concern for women patients. I now fear seeing women doctors.
I'm sorry that this is the case with the doctors you have encountered. Research shows that the patients of female surgeons tend to have better post-operative recovery. Perhaps this is not the case in terms of primary care?
In another comment I left here, I described how the female urologist I was sent to had a "women and heart disease" poster on her office wall, while the male urologist I had a second opinion with had a book on male health issues sitting on his desk. But aside from that, the female urologist said, "you have cancer", handed me a cheesy pamphlet, and ran out of the room. The male urologist sat down with me for 20 minutes and discussed his treatment plan, and asked me if I had any questions. The difference between night and Day.
I think, often the difference between individuals isn't one we can attribute to the group at large. When I first went to a doctor about an issue, he sent me off with an 'it's probably just hormones'. Asking about that issue a second time to a completely different doctor was the only way to get any sort of real advice, discussion and a prescription.
I am not sure that concern for female patients is a sign of bias. And if it is in some cases, and I felt fear, I would use the opportunity to find the solution to fear in myself. Good luck.
They ONLY express concern for female patients. Kaiser sent me to a female urologist who had “women and heart disease” posters on her office wall. I immediately requested a second opinion with a male urologist. In his office, he had a book about male health issues on his desk. Picking the male urologist was a total no-brainer. Especially when one’s life is on the line.
Thank you. The female urologist said, “You have cancer (of the bladder), handed me a cheesy pamphlet, then ran out of the room. The male urologist confirmed the diagnosis, then sat down with me for 20 minutes to discuss his intended treatment plan, and to answer questions. He did the operation to remove the bladder tumors. Sometimes the difference between male and female docs is the difference between night and day.
Funny, I agree with this writer’s conclusion except for the fact that he has drawn the conclusion that an entire administration is biased based on one government report. Dream on thinking we can be so free and above it all to escape bias.
I remember messaging FIRE about circumcision - lol, they're hypocrites that don't think men should have freedom over their own cocks like most males have all over the world.
An annoying hypocrisy I see on both the left and right.
Let's not forget about the circumcision violent male genital mutilation child sexual abuse solely perpetrated upon boys for a hundred years in the so called land of "freedom and liberty" USA, so much freedom yet men don't own their own cocks.
Not to mention all of the disgusting and debased cruel jokes about circumcision and the shaming of foreskin in crappy Hollywood garbage films and banal sitcoms.
Men don't have basic genital integrity and body autonomy for a century in a land where people see themselves as world leaders and the most moral and ethical! Such evil misandrist hypocrisy.
Women talk about my body my choice, and society is blind to the routine sexual mutilation and fight flight freeze trauma that is perpetrated upon baby boys.
Also, women have optional motherhood, but fatherhood is forced and at the mercy of the woman and the state. Men don't have reproductive rights either.
Then there's the male only draft, but I digress.
Circumcision is violent blade rape.
Europe, Japan, the majority of the world - knows better.
That's actual rape culture.
Foregen is a biotech company raising money for the final phase 3 of 3 human trials on GoFundMe.
They are regenerating foreskins through regenerative medicine to reverse circumcision mutilation.
They've already had successful phase 2 animal trials and have received millions on donations.
They're almost ready to be public.
Over 6500+ species of mammals have foreskins, it is not a mistake.
It has the majority of nerve endings and sensitivity of the penis. More pleasure, lubrication, less excessive friction WHICH ACTUALLY REDUCES DISEASE TRANSMISSION! YES, YOU HEARD THAT RIGHT. CIRCUMCISION=MORE FRICTION=MORE MICRO CUTS AND ABRASIONS=MORE HIV TRANSMISSION AND STDs - look it up.
European medical associations know how disgusting and crippling circumcision is.
Iceland almost banned circumcision but the selfish ADL and the USA pressured them not to. They will vote in a few years again to try to ban it again.
I hope they do.
Any culture that circumcises is not ethical or modern, but they are child sexual abusers and traumatizers.
No argument about it.
Also, they sell baby boy foreskin cells online as HFF, neonatal human foreskin fibroblasts, for $500 a vial in Sigma Aldrich and other biotech firms.
Circumcision and foreskin is a billion dollar industry.
Cosmetic companies can test their product on foreskin fibroblasts and then say they are CRUELTY FREE on their packaging! Why! Because they didn't test on the precious animals! Animals that are cared for more than human baby boys.
Note to Richard Reeves: I have been trying to contact you about Maryland Gov. Moore's promise to do something to help boys and men. Here is the message I've sent on your contact template:
I am in touch with Md. Gov. Moore's deputy chief of staff who is following up on the governor's State of the State commitment to helping boys and men. The deputy has asked for my advice about what they can do. I know that the budget for Maryland is in serious trouble, so I believe that a cost-effective step would be to introduce teacher training for how to work better with the special needs of boys in the school room. I believe that AIBM has a program for this delivered on a consultant basis. I would like to confirm this is available and receive a bit more information. I believe the time to strike is now, before this promise turns cold.
I look forward to helping the cause to make early learning more constructive for boys.
Shortly after Governor Moore's announcement, I emailed Maryland's Communications Director, David Turner, to ask that he and staff implement a Maryland Commission for Men to with their Maryland Commission for Women. He thanked me for the idea. If you like, you can email him to see if progress is being made to establish their Men's Commission. David.Turner@maryland.gov.
Thanks Frank. It's amazing how difficult it is to contact people these days in public or private offices. It seems to me that ignoring emails is the new style.
David Turner wrote back to me in 4 days. He thanked me for the idea, and said he would present the idea to relevant staff. My take is that it’s best to seek out staff that are high up enough, but not too high, to the point they are unresponsive, I encourage you to follow up with David Turner, maybe suggest that they start a Men’s Commission. That will hopefully give him a reminder to see what is happening with that poject.
Will do. I have a contact in the governor's office that I am following up with and will add David Turner. My contacts were responsive, indicating they would like some suggestions from me. That's why I was trying to get hold of Richard Reeves, because my suggestion is for the state education department to introduce some teacher training in how to more effectively teach boys since they learn differently from girls. Boys drop out too much.
Thank you for your good work! Specific program proposals that you mentioned are good ideas. As you know, boys are also frequently placed on psychoactive drugs like Ritalin for being “fidgety” in class, because the class room was designed for girls. My idea of a comparable Maryland Men’s Commission is more general, but it could (hopefully) address the specific issues you mentioned. Speaking of that, the state of California is now being sued because they have a women’s commission, but refused to create a ,men’s commission.
Both political parties are complicit in circumcision male genital mutilation of millions and millions of boys.
Systemic forced violent sexual abuse with lifelong damage.
Neither party cares to abolish the male only draft.
Neither party wants marriage law reform or child support reform.
Women can abort but men are forced to be fathers.
Both parties like it this way and don't care if men have equal rights to women.
Red or blue, they don't care about you.
They're both overly gynocentric garbage and always have been.
Lots of these masochistic beasts of burden men are complicit in reinforcement of the disposable male attitude this society has.
We teach boys that not caring about yourself is "heroic". It's just masochistic slavery. Just brainwashing to be a good killer for your country's elites.
The Republicans are MAYBE only slightly better when it comes to boys and men...maybe...barely...
Democrats cannot win anything if they continue to ignore white men.
On another point, my husband enjoyed our daughters as much as me. Throwing them up in the air or balancing them standing up in his hand brought all of us so much joy. We need strong, compassionate, thinking men and women.
I love your utopian, Star Trek version of acceptance. I align with all of that, prob is we not there yet and yes, gender is political, buts it’s supposed to be societal, dude. And that’s the issue, eh? I don’t get the impression you adhere to gummint up your ass telling you anything about who you are. You guys figured that out though out your history. That’s were we are.
As for any insult? What insult? Immature Male Archetype use of the chirp of the them-ness & anti-woman agenda pusher? That one? Look at your posts, man.
PR, I’m sure this site wants input from all of those who are interested in the progress of boys and men. I feel your passion for change. Please know I do too. TC.
I dont understand your first paragraph. Acceptance of what?
Gender is societal. So what? Government is there to change society? Really? You see the point: we are in a totalirarism world where Girlvernment dictates social rules, instead of society dictating Government rules. The Government is not there to change society: thats not its mandate!!
Mainly when It is for the benefit of Big companies: feminism is a way to lower wages.
So you are supposed to be democrat, but your policies has been killing mens wages for dacades:
1. Desindustrailization.
2. Feminist
3. Massive inmigration...
All designes to f*ck labour (mainly, men) salaries. And you support that??
Yes. I am against women agenda supported by the Government and Soros. Women are free to do whatever they want, but Government has no right to create rules against males.
Yes, it is an insult. The manosfera is a way of thinking. Different from yours. Respect.
Btw, Trump eliminating DEI from law firms has made more for the advance of men than Democrats in 1000s of years. Sorry mate: you are in the wrong side of History.
Women:
1. Have less risky jobs.
2. Less suicide.
3. More education.
4. More Life expectancy
And you supprort women agenda?? No!! They are the upper class!!
In Europe gender quotas entail that me. Are being kicking our of their Jobs to put women. Is that supporting men and boys?? Where the hell??
And then they will and say: "we Will give you some affirmative action to become a teacher. After decades of kicking your ass our of Universities and power possitions, be happy! You can now become a teacher!!"
Have you looked at the "who we serve" page of the Democratic Party? It is democrats.org/who-we-are/who-we-serve. It shows that they serve women, but not men. Looks like an immature female archetype to me.
Yes. You are correct. The Dems are not the answer. They have left the boys\men behind. This is a hole the immature masculine has exploited to their advantage to make it appear it is the women’s fault. It’s men’s mentorship that has failed. That is an issue I intend to bring to their attention.
Democrats dont have any moral authority in mens issues. Never. THEY have been behind the current situation of men. They have less the Western World for most of the past 50 years? Result?
Mass inmigration that attacked mens wages.
Toxic feminist that ended in discrimination against males.
Globalisation, that removed Jobs from western countries to lower mens wages. Again.
Destruction of nuclear family with policies pro women.
Male taxes going to superfluos public Karens.
And now do they came with a plan? For what? Having more males teachers? Thats their Magic solution?
When Reeves says without ideology is because he has lost. Without Trump, men would continue to be ignores and more discriminated under Kemala. They dont care about males: they care about their votes.
Even in liberal States like California, they do nothing for males. Even now, they resist ending DEI programmes.
Kill All Men? The end of men. Future is Female. Remember?
PR, you’re right. It does appear the progress of the mature masculine has suffered in the recent past. Whatcha gonna do about it? I have already begun my calling to work with young men, churches, school districts, and my local poli-critters to be more aware of the actual data. Who knows? Maybe someone will hear me.
2. In Europe we heven have gender cuotas for top employments. NEVER vote Democrats. They still have much more discrimination against males in their arsenal.
3. Help men. I also do coaching. Men are starting to organise.
4. Never hire a women. Affirmative action? In favour of males.
I remember watching a video clip of a woman computer programmer, who I think was from Russia. She told this audience that she would not hire female programmers, as she said that most of them were lazy.
I don’t feel aligning young men to be TOLD they need to join a group of likeminded immature males as the direction I want to go. I’m sure your European perspective allows you some misunderstanding of what this article is about. I don’t actually think this is a political discussion at all. Also, I’m not sure you can write off the amazing accomplishments we in the US have made to progress women in our society. We’re not there yet, but damn. There’s some pretty impressive ones out there ! Good luck putting the Goddess back in the bottle.
Once again, as we see from PR, the shadow immature masculine has a message. This is the topic we men need to be having with each other. Come in guys. Let’s step it up.
Shadow immature women in Congress, aka feminists, made sure that three times more taxpayer funds are spent on breast cancer than prostate cancer. Think about that at you next annual physical.
I voted for Biden but never got the sense his administration was particularly concerned with men's issues during our The Future is Female zeitgeist. Trump's victory was at least partly fueled by the gendered backlash to this progress. Gender without ideology isn't too much to hope for and yet gender and power remain intertwined.
I can agree with this. I can see an argument for gender and power being intertwined. But I cannot see an argument for it being one sided (I’m not suggesting that you are, just noting). The only real power a male has over a female is physical. After that, females control most everything.
If a husband wants a very important thing from his wife, he must do what she says. If a male is favored in any way in society, it is seen as automatically misogynistic, as we’ve seen in biases among teachers towards females.
There are some domains in which males have power primarily from possessing positions in which power is axiomatically inherent, or at least appears that way.
So while gender and power might be intertwined, it seems to be either a) balanced out by various domains in which power is occupied by one gender while simultaneously having other domains occupied by the other gender, or b) if not balanced, leaning significantly in favor of females.
Politicians can ignore boys and men's issues and face no worries about re-election. The research is clear that moral typecasting, precarious manhood and other factors are playing into this and no one cares. We will likely trudge forward without compassion for boys and men until that shifts.
Who brought to bear upon society the ideology and politicization of gender? You need to declare yourself openly against feminism Richard, feminism is the reason why these things feel so hopeless and ideologically stubborn. Feminism is the cause of the needless division that prevents the sorts of action you spend your time advocating for. Just SAY IT, loudly and unapologetically.
Curious Lance (imaging what feminists would think of your argument). Wasn't feminism really just a reaction to male dominance in so many areas of the economy, politics, etc.? Gender wasn't politicized until women began asking for equality (still an ongoing fight).
Feminism, as such, is an ideological branch of Marxism that conceptualizes the historical and contemporary relationship between males and females as a dialectic of “power”. In other words: the fundamental claim, and belief, of feminism IS that the best interest of men and boys are antithetical to, and deleterious of, the best interest of women and girls. Ergo, I declare feminism to be EVIL, and I make no apologies in doing so.
Interesting. I have met a few angry feminists but 98% of them just seem to want roughly about as much power as men have had since the dawn of time. Many are particularly keen on raising healthy sons. I always learn a lot by asking them their thoughts on how to raise strong boys. None have ever said make them more like girls.
Most men have never had power, there has always been a smaller aristocracy and the vast majority a working class.
When women say that, they're referring to the top CEOs, athletes, entrepreneurs - who had to put forth an effort (aided by their good genetics, too, of course)...
Also, these working class men, working laborious jobs ... While the woman was a homemaker and the queen of her own property...who is really the privileged one?
You need to read Esthar Vilar's book, "The Manipulated Man"...
You have it backwards.
You can view it an entirely different way, but you only cling to one perspective.
The Myth of Male Power by Dr. Warren Farrell is also a good read.
Men labor and toil, women benefit from it. That's not women being oppressed.
These modern women are also bitching about a past that they were never a part of either, why behave like you are being treated poorly based on your interpretation of the past? This post modernist feminist man hating way of viewing the past makes many women actively hate and abuse the men in their lives. Don't deny it.
Men need feminism too because feminism is the idea that we all have it within us to be the universe is calling us to be, regardless of what society tells us to be.
There area lot of people who comment here using a lot of long Latinate words 🙄 to tell us what feminism is... who are just mad.
Be mad bro.
Feelings are not harmful in and of themselves
"We are more often frightened than hurt; and we suffer more in imagination than in reality." - Seneca
Which is what I spend a lot of time telling my boys because frankly it is the only way to fight male grievance culture.
Ask yourself if you are getting the results in life that you want.
That we are not given complete control is to our mutual advantage, so that we might learn to live in a community of equals. To get angry at something means you’ve forgotten: We always die, and we’re all equal at birth and death.
Feminists, democrats, republicans have never once tried to give men the rights that women have.
Boys and men don't own their own cocks. Circumcision is violent child sexual abuse and trauma, and a lifelong damage to sexual fulfillment. Women have so much sex positive everything, a woman's sexuality is seen as valid and no one dare question it.
But a man's? I hear some feminists even make posts approving of circumcision because that's how much they hate males.
Europe knows better, Japan too.
Any parent that mutilates their son does not deserve to have a son. It's child sexual abuse. No argument about it.
There is never a reason to circumcise, even phimosis can be cured by wearing a stretching device. You can stretch your earlobes to the size of dinner plates with gage earrings...you can stretch your neck ... you get the idea.
Also, dumb misandrist Americans don't know that uncircumcised boys have the foreskin fused to the head of the penis at birth on purpose by design - that is the equivalent of the HYMEN but for boys, it is meant to protect the penis. It starts to retract around age 10.5 on average (swedish study).
Americans don't know this and they forcibly retract the baby boy which injures him, causes tears and damage and results in scar tissue which reduces elasticity which leads to phimosis.
Americans are literally retarded when it comes to knowing anything about the natural male body and the natural SUPERIOR unmutilated penis.
Men need men's right activists, not feminist who don't give a shit about them or who actively hate them and want to restrict men even more through their any male laws!
Men need men to represent them, but current men in Congress serve women mainly.
Men need their own equivalent movement that women have had.
Men have no reproductive rights, women can abort, men are forced into fatherhood and into child support. This is sexist inequality.
Feminists will never ever represent men and fight for men to get the same privileges and protection that they have.
It is a zero sun game, there is finite money, attention and time to go around.
This is obvious.
Also, the male only draft needs to be abolished, right now, if you don't enter the draft at age 18 you don't get to have a government job, federal financial aid for college (most scholarships are for women only anyways...is that equality? No.) , even drivers license can be denied.
Feminists, republicans and democrats as they are now will never try to right these wrongs
Don't get me started on garbage marriage law either, which just enslaves men financially.
Men are not privileged but gaslighted into thinking they are by all people, regardless of the political party.
You don't know any of this, because you never cared enough to understand. That's how I know you're sexist misandrist and self centered.
Please, don’t speak to me of circumcision. I was 19 when I first realized the markings on my penis were scars, the damage is done… and my parents love me, they meant no harm by consenting to the mutilation I was subjected to.
Good question Lance (BTW I'm just a white guy with a few degrees who's doing well economically - thinking of changing my handle to Hardcore Moderate). I respect Reeves immensely but where I still struggle is his zero sum game stance. I think politics is just a ten dollar word for power and ideology is just what helps us justify the power we have. If I woke up female tomorrow I'd be pissed that I didn't see myself represented in the senate/house, on corporate boards and that I made 85% of what men did (not to mention my limited power to terminate my own pregnancies).
Yes, there are more men than women in our legislatures but the question is not a simple "what percent of the lawmakers are women." The question is who do the lawmakers work for? Do tjhey focus on serving women, men, or both. Just a very quick glance at our laws shows clearly that our male legislators are passing laws that favor women. But still people moan about not having women in the legislatures. Go figure.
You have a “few degrees” and you don’t know that the “wage gap” is a myth. 🤣 Isn’t that so typical? A college “educated” person who doesn’t understand basic economics… or indeed, basic principles of nature.
Also, for the record, abortion is a way for men to avoid responsibility for their sexual hedonism… naturally therefore, more men than women are pro-choice.
Additionally, men have fewer “reproductive rights” than women do… whatever the state they’re living in, He doesn’t have a “choice”, whatever She decides, He is on the hook for it: both financially and psychologically. You don’t seem to ascribe much agency to women, which is a common trait amongst “feminist men”.
Perhaps you have a group of reasonable friends who are identifying themselves as “feminists” because they’re unaware of the philosophically misanthropic reality of the ideology. We might call such people “feminists in name only”.
What are some of their notions about raising strong sons?
The obvious answer to raising strong sons is to have the bio father closely involved with the boy. The research is totally clear on this and shows the myriad of problems that arise when dads are not present. But what have feminists fought for? More child support and getting fathers out of the home. Anyone who doesn't believe this needs to go and talk with someone who has been lobbying for shared parenting and ask who is stopping this from happening. They answer nearly 100% of the time lawyers and feminists. Check out Janice Fiamengos substack and read about this issue and how feminists have been struggling to remove fathers from the home for a long time. They believed that women could not be free if the nuclear family stayed intact. They openly write about it but no one reads their writing, they only read the "feminism is about equality" BS.
How dare you! How dare you presume to say that men have a unique perspective! How dare you presume to say that men have something unique to offer! How dare you presume to suggest that men are as essential to the condition of humanity as women are! How dare you presume to say that men and boys aren’t disposable, obsolete, monsters!
HOW DARE YOU!!!
- Incredulously, a feminist reading the perfectly reasonable things you’ve said.
Generalizing and I think Michele above can speak directly to that but they are surprisingly reasonable things (many seem to be character and integrity qualities) like learning: not to be afraid to take risks, to listen well, to feel before reacting, to move towards their fears, to apologize when wrong, to stand up to bullies, to respect women as equals, etc. (As a man I'm thinking things like: can you postpone gratification, tolerate physical and emotional distress and provide comfort & support.)
You're just describing reading a boy to tolerate discomfort so things they're afraid of, respect and support women...sounds like you just want boys to grow into subservient masochistic beasts of burden.
Where is the respect and compassion for men and boys?
Circumcision is emasculating degrading violent blade rape.
It's worse than rape, because most rapists don't mutilate the genitals of their victims in too of the rape.
Men and boys need to start being more self serving because they haven't been given equal rights over their cocks, they have no reproductive rights, women can abort, men are slaves and have no choice but to pay child support or else he is a "dead beat", but a woman that aborts isn't considered a loser at all?
Teaching boys to respect and serve a class of people that are treated far better than them, many of which actually hate them too, what a fucking joke.
Then there is the dog shit male only draft and garbage marriage law and gynocentric family court and misandrist Duluth model of domestic violence and the misandrist title 9 bullshit in college.
Great piece as usual. Just going to add from some young voter interviews this past year, that the lockdowns adversely effected a lot of high school junior and senior guys, that would have been up for sports scholarships, had their seasons and training not been cut (or cancelled completely)… that’s going to affect them for the rest of their lives, and is not really talked about
Hi PR, I interview voters as part of my job, and spoke with first time voters in 2024, who had been juniors or seniors in 2020, and more than several of them told me they *personally* lost potential scholarships, because their training and seasons were interrupted. No one mentioned tests, but then, this is America, athleticism is a ticket to college for many young men… more so than an exam would be. I’m not sure what went on in England.
Yes massive grief & loss for young people who had trained for years to either play in high school or college and lost the opportunity. They lost both their tickets to college and in many ways their tribes and identities. A friend of mine's high school son built a tiny lap pool in their garage out of tarps and extra lumber so he could keep swimming in hopes of swimming in college!
What always seems crazy to me is how some people are quick to make it a zero sum game.
As if we are incapable of having compassion for men and women at the same time.
Waiting patiently for your analysis of the Netflix series Adolescence!
Excellent read, as always. Love the objective approach. Oxytocin is an interesting one. It’s released through acts of kindness. It fights addiction and boosts our immune system. I recently heard Erica Komisar talking about the father’s role in tactical engagement with the child, particularly boys. The tossing and roughhousing is extremely beneficial to proper development of certain behavioral areas like resilience, perseverance, and conflict resolution.
re: "for example, in the enrollment drop for students from high-poverty and low-poverty schools: 3% and 11% declines respectively." You have these figures swapped, no? It's 11% high and 3% low?
Circumcision.
Start with giving men and boys rights over their cocks.
Ban circumcision, no argument. Iceland tried to, but Americans and Jews in the ADL whined. Now Iceland is set to vote on this again in the future.
We don't even give men rights over their own so called private parts which are not even private to boys and men, and we have the fucking gall to criticize men and boys at all?
This is the place to start, men are not even viewed as humans with basic rights - just disposable workers peons whose genitals are public property in the land of so called freedom and liberty...what a fucking joke.
The Democrats never tried to give men rights over their own dicks or reproductive rights or to have the draft abolished, which it should be.
No political party has ever had compassion for men or tries to give men the same protection and privilege that women have.
Also, marriage law is just financial slavery, as well. The government should not be involved in personal relationships and no one should be forced to pay money to someone that left them or even if they leave them.
It's 2025, it's time for some actual fucking equality.
Tired of these limp wristed weak posers.
For the record, I have a deep disdain for both political parties who knowingly have let men and boys be mutilated, subjected to the draft system or they can't get government jobs, federal financial aid for college or drivers licenses - and not giving men reproductive rights.
It's a shame men are collectively complacent and when men do gather you get feminist protesting outside calling them misogynistic without proof - like when Dr. Warren Farrell held the men's suicide epidemic seminar at a college campus and tons of feminists came to protest them - how compassionate of them...they're absolutely sexist and actively man haters.
You do decent work, man, but you either don't communicate how bad it really is because you don't know, or it's a part of your strategy to get the ball rolling without being shut down. Hopefully it's the second one.
Let's not forget about the circumcision violent male genital mutilation child sexual abuse solely perpetrated upon boys for a hundred years in the so called land of "freedom and liberty" USA, so much freedom yet men don't own their own cocks.
Not to mention all of the disgusting and debased cruel jokes about circumcision and the shaming of foreskin in crappy Hollywood garbage films and banal sitcoms.
Men don't have basic genital integrity and body autonomy for a century in a land where people see themselves as world leaders and the most moral and ethical! Such evil misandrist hypocrisy.
Women talk about my body my choice, and society is blind to the routine sexual mutilation and fight flight freeze trauma that is perpetrated upon baby boys.
Also, women have optional motherhood, but fatherhood is forced and at the mercy of the woman and the state. Men don't have reproductive rights either.
Then there's the male only draft, but I digress.
Circumcision is violent blade rape.
Europe, Japan, the majority of the world - knows better.
That's actual rape culture.
Foregen is a biotech company raising money for the final phase 3 of 3 human trials on GoFundMe.
They are regenerating foreskins through regenerative medicine to reverse circumcision mutilation.
They've already had successful phase 2 animal trials and have received millions on donations.
They're almost ready to be public.
Over 6500+ species of mammals have foreskins, it is not a mistake.
It has the majority of nerve endings and sensitivity of the penis. More pleasure, lubrication, less excessive friction WHICH ACTUALLY REDUCES DISEASE TRANSMISSION! YES, YOU HEARD THAT RIGHT. CIRCUMCISION=MORE FRICTION=MORE MICRO CUTS AND ABRASIONS=MORE HIV TRANSMISSION AND STDs - look it up.
European medical associations know how disgusting and crippling circumcision is.
Iceland almost banned circumcision but the selfish ADL and the USA pressured them not to. They will vote in a few years again to try to ban it again.
I hope they do.
Any culture that circumcises is not ethical or modern, but they are child sexual abusers and traumatizers.
No argument about it.
Also, they sell baby boy foreskin cells online as HFF, neonatal human foreskin fibroblasts, for $500 a vial in Sigma Aldrich and other biotech firms.
Circumcision and foreskin is a billion dollar industry.
Cosmetic companies can test their product on foreskin fibroblasts and then say they are CRUELTY FREE on their packaging! Why! Because they didn't test on the precious animals! Animals that are cared for more than human baby boys.
If you care about boys, say something.
This is the best newsletter that I have read by Mr. Reeves. I love the new format.
I see elements of truth throughout the comments. The supremism as PR calls it can be seen in women's dreams, where a war with the masculine side of their psyches is taking place (just as men are often at war with the female side of their psyches). Until this anti masculine bias is rooted out, it will get projected onto the world in many ways, including "supporting boys while holding onto the gains that women have made". Every time I heard those words said with so much earnestness, like the new enlightenment, my nervous system cringes at the shadow. It would be interesting if everyone at the Institute asked for a dream about what they need to know about supporting boys that they do not know, and any adjustments that they may need to make.
The anti-masculine bias also shows up here on Substack with female doctors only expressing concern for women patients. I now fear seeing women doctors.
I'm sorry that this is the case with the doctors you have encountered. Research shows that the patients of female surgeons tend to have better post-operative recovery. Perhaps this is not the case in terms of primary care?
In another comment I left here, I described how the female urologist I was sent to had a "women and heart disease" poster on her office wall, while the male urologist I had a second opinion with had a book on male health issues sitting on his desk. But aside from that, the female urologist said, "you have cancer", handed me a cheesy pamphlet, and ran out of the room. The male urologist sat down with me for 20 minutes and discussed his treatment plan, and asked me if I had any questions. The difference between night and Day.
I think, often the difference between individuals isn't one we can attribute to the group at large. When I first went to a doctor about an issue, he sent me off with an 'it's probably just hormones'. Asking about that issue a second time to a completely different doctor was the only way to get any sort of real advice, discussion and a prescription.
Thank you. The problem is not the skill level of female doctors, but their dismissive attitude towards men and male patients.
I am not sure that concern for female patients is a sign of bias. And if it is in some cases, and I felt fear, I would use the opportunity to find the solution to fear in myself. Good luck.
They ONLY express concern for female patients. Kaiser sent me to a female urologist who had “women and heart disease” posters on her office wall. I immediately requested a second opinion with a male urologist. In his office, he had a book about male health issues on his desk. Picking the male urologist was a total no-brainer. Especially when one’s life is on the line.
I am glad that you found a good doc.
Thank you. The female urologist said, “You have cancer (of the bladder), handed me a cheesy pamphlet, then ran out of the room. The male urologist confirmed the diagnosis, then sat down with me for 20 minutes to discuss his intended treatment plan, and to answer questions. He did the operation to remove the bladder tumors. Sometimes the difference between male and female docs is the difference between night and day.
Really good stuff Richard, keep up the good work
Thanks Bob, means a lot from you!
Funny, I agree with this writer’s conclusion except for the fact that he has drawn the conclusion that an entire administration is biased based on one government report. Dream on thinking we can be so free and above it all to escape bias.
In February 2024, Biden gave $100,000,000 to a White House Women's Health Initiative, and ZERO dollars for men's health. Did you know about that?
A much larger anti-male bias is to be found in the Biden administration’s Title IX rewrite last year that uniquely deprived boys of the fundamental rights of due process and free expression. FIRE did great work on this. https://www.thefire.org/news/breaking-new-title-ix-regulations-undermine-campus-free-speech-and-due-process-rights
I remember messaging FIRE about circumcision - lol, they're hypocrites that don't think men should have freedom over their own cocks like most males have all over the world.
An annoying hypocrisy I see on both the left and right.
Let's not forget about the circumcision violent male genital mutilation child sexual abuse solely perpetrated upon boys for a hundred years in the so called land of "freedom and liberty" USA, so much freedom yet men don't own their own cocks.
Not to mention all of the disgusting and debased cruel jokes about circumcision and the shaming of foreskin in crappy Hollywood garbage films and banal sitcoms.
Men don't have basic genital integrity and body autonomy for a century in a land where people see themselves as world leaders and the most moral and ethical! Such evil misandrist hypocrisy.
Women talk about my body my choice, and society is blind to the routine sexual mutilation and fight flight freeze trauma that is perpetrated upon baby boys.
Also, women have optional motherhood, but fatherhood is forced and at the mercy of the woman and the state. Men don't have reproductive rights either.
Then there's the male only draft, but I digress.
Circumcision is violent blade rape.
Europe, Japan, the majority of the world - knows better.
That's actual rape culture.
Foregen is a biotech company raising money for the final phase 3 of 3 human trials on GoFundMe.
They are regenerating foreskins through regenerative medicine to reverse circumcision mutilation.
They've already had successful phase 2 animal trials and have received millions on donations.
They're almost ready to be public.
Over 6500+ species of mammals have foreskins, it is not a mistake.
It has the majority of nerve endings and sensitivity of the penis. More pleasure, lubrication, less excessive friction WHICH ACTUALLY REDUCES DISEASE TRANSMISSION! YES, YOU HEARD THAT RIGHT. CIRCUMCISION=MORE FRICTION=MORE MICRO CUTS AND ABRASIONS=MORE HIV TRANSMISSION AND STDs - look it up.
European medical associations know how disgusting and crippling circumcision is.
Iceland almost banned circumcision but the selfish ADL and the USA pressured them not to. They will vote in a few years again to try to ban it again.
I hope they do.
Any culture that circumcises is not ethical or modern, but they are child sexual abusers and traumatizers.
No argument about it.
Also, they sell baby boy foreskin cells online as HFF, neonatal human foreskin fibroblasts, for $500 a vial in Sigma Aldrich and other biotech firms.
Circumcision and foreskin is a billion dollar industry.
Cosmetic companies can test their product on foreskin fibroblasts and then say they are CRUELTY FREE on their packaging! Why! Because they didn't test on the precious animals! Animals that are cared for more than human baby boys.
If you care about boys, say something.
Note to Richard Reeves: I have been trying to contact you about Maryland Gov. Moore's promise to do something to help boys and men. Here is the message I've sent on your contact template:
I am in touch with Md. Gov. Moore's deputy chief of staff who is following up on the governor's State of the State commitment to helping boys and men. The deputy has asked for my advice about what they can do. I know that the budget for Maryland is in serious trouble, so I believe that a cost-effective step would be to introduce teacher training for how to work better with the special needs of boys in the school room. I believe that AIBM has a program for this delivered on a consultant basis. I would like to confirm this is available and receive a bit more information. I believe the time to strike is now, before this promise turns cold.
I look forward to helping the cause to make early learning more constructive for boys.
Vicki Lathom, Annapolis, Md. vlathom@gmail.com
Hi Chico,
Shortly after Governor Moore's announcement, I emailed Maryland's Communications Director, David Turner, to ask that he and staff implement a Maryland Commission for Men to with their Maryland Commission for Women. He thanked me for the idea. If you like, you can email him to see if progress is being made to establish their Men's Commission. David.Turner@maryland.gov.
Thanks Frank. It's amazing how difficult it is to contact people these days in public or private offices. It seems to me that ignoring emails is the new style.
David Turner wrote back to me in 4 days. He thanked me for the idea, and said he would present the idea to relevant staff. My take is that it’s best to seek out staff that are high up enough, but not too high, to the point they are unresponsive, I encourage you to follow up with David Turner, maybe suggest that they start a Men’s Commission. That will hopefully give him a reminder to see what is happening with that poject.
Will do. I have a contact in the governor's office that I am following up with and will add David Turner. My contacts were responsive, indicating they would like some suggestions from me. That's why I was trying to get hold of Richard Reeves, because my suggestion is for the state education department to introduce some teacher training in how to more effectively teach boys since they learn differently from girls. Boys drop out too much.
Thank you for your good work! Specific program proposals that you mentioned are good ideas. As you know, boys are also frequently placed on psychoactive drugs like Ritalin for being “fidgety” in class, because the class room was designed for girls. My idea of a comparable Maryland Men’s Commission is more general, but it could (hopefully) address the specific issues you mentioned. Speaking of that, the state of California is now being sued because they have a women’s commission, but refused to create a ,men’s commission.
No sorry. I dont trust anything coming from Reeves and Equimundo. False
The same people that created this distopy by discriminating MEN has no moral authority to address Mens problems.
Step one: recognise that they were WRONG and feminist has been toxic
Step two: recognise toxic female supremisim.
Step there: just deploy as much money to men as you do to women. Or nothing to them. Si simple.
Recognise biological differences and men higher phisical capabilities.
Recognise that Soros and Democrats has destroyed men bd they DO NOT deserve to be voted by men.
Stop
Both political parties are complicit in circumcision male genital mutilation of millions and millions of boys.
Systemic forced violent sexual abuse with lifelong damage.
Neither party cares to abolish the male only draft.
Neither party wants marriage law reform or child support reform.
Women can abort but men are forced to be fathers.
Both parties like it this way and don't care if men have equal rights to women.
Red or blue, they don't care about you.
They're both overly gynocentric garbage and always have been.
Lots of these masochistic beasts of burden men are complicit in reinforcement of the disposable male attitude this society has.
We teach boys that not caring about yourself is "heroic". It's just masochistic slavery. Just brainwashing to be a good killer for your country's elites.
The Republicans are MAYBE only slightly better when it comes to boys and men...maybe...barely...
Are you sure?
Trump has changed narrative completely:. Completely:
https://www.indiatoday.in/world/us-news/story/jd-vance-at-cpac-let-men-be-men-stop-forcing-woke-ideals-glbs-2683674-2025-02-21
In Europe we heven have gender quotas in favor ofnwomen in top possitions
Believed me: there are much more discrimination against males to ocurre if Democrats regain power. Not in favour of males, no.
Democrats cannot win anything if they continue to ignore white men.
On another point, my husband enjoyed our daughters as much as me. Throwing them up in the air or balancing them standing up in his hand brought all of us so much joy. We need strong, compassionate, thinking men and women.
I love your utopian, Star Trek version of acceptance. I align with all of that, prob is we not there yet and yes, gender is political, buts it’s supposed to be societal, dude. And that’s the issue, eh? I don’t get the impression you adhere to gummint up your ass telling you anything about who you are. You guys figured that out though out your history. That’s were we are.
As for any insult? What insult? Immature Male Archetype use of the chirp of the them-ness & anti-woman agenda pusher? That one? Look at your posts, man.
PR, I’m sure this site wants input from all of those who are interested in the progress of boys and men. I feel your passion for change. Please know I do too. TC.
Sorry I miss this answer.
I dont understand your first paragraph. Acceptance of what?
Gender is societal. So what? Government is there to change society? Really? You see the point: we are in a totalirarism world where Girlvernment dictates social rules, instead of society dictating Government rules. The Government is not there to change society: thats not its mandate!!
Mainly when It is for the benefit of Big companies: feminism is a way to lower wages.
So you are supposed to be democrat, but your policies has been killing mens wages for dacades:
1. Desindustrailization.
2. Feminist
3. Massive inmigration...
All designes to f*ck labour (mainly, men) salaries. And you support that??
Yes. I am against women agenda supported by the Government and Soros. Women are free to do whatever they want, but Government has no right to create rules against males.
Yes, it is an insult. The manosfera is a way of thinking. Different from yours. Respect.
Btw, Trump eliminating DEI from law firms has made more for the advance of men than Democrats in 1000s of years. Sorry mate: you are in the wrong side of History.
Women:
1. Have less risky jobs.
2. Less suicide.
3. More education.
4. More Life expectancy
And you supprort women agenda?? No!! They are the upper class!!
In Europe gender quotas entail that me. Are being kicking our of their Jobs to put women. Is that supporting men and boys?? Where the hell??
And then they will and say: "we Will give you some affirmative action to become a teacher. After decades of kicking your ass our of Universities and power possitions, be happy! You can now become a teacher!!"
So, stop playing stupid with me.
Have you looked at the "who we serve" page of the Democratic Party? It is democrats.org/who-we-are/who-we-serve. It shows that they serve women, but not men. Looks like an immature female archetype to me.
Yes. You are correct. The Dems are not the answer. They have left the boys\men behind. This is a hole the immature masculine has exploited to their advantage to make it appear it is the women’s fault. It’s men’s mentorship that has failed. That is an issue I intend to bring to their attention.
Democrats dont have any moral authority in mens issues. Never. THEY have been behind the current situation of men. They have less the Western World for most of the past 50 years? Result?
Mass inmigration that attacked mens wages.
Toxic feminist that ended in discrimination against males.
Globalisation, that removed Jobs from western countries to lower mens wages. Again.
Destruction of nuclear family with policies pro women.
Male taxes going to superfluos public Karens.
And now do they came with a plan? For what? Having more males teachers? Thats their Magic solution?
When Reeves says without ideology is because he has lost. Without Trump, men would continue to be ignores and more discriminated under Kemala. They dont care about males: they care about their votes.
Even in liberal States like California, they do nothing for males. Even now, they resist ending DEI programmes.
Kill All Men? The end of men. Future is Female. Remember?
Well, now is Kill All Democrats.
The end of liberales
Future is Trump.
Good thanks we have Trump.
PR, you’re right. It does appear the progress of the mature masculine has suffered in the recent past. Whatcha gonna do about it? I have already begun my calling to work with young men, churches, school districts, and my local poli-critters to be more aware of the actual data. Who knows? Maybe someone will hear me.
I hear you.
Few ideas:
1. Change narrative. GOP has already made It: https://www.indiatoday.in/world/us-news/story/jd-vance-at-cpac-let-men-be-men-stop-forcing-woke-ideals-glbs-2683674-2025-02-21
2. In Europe we heven have gender cuotas for top employments. NEVER vote Democrats. They still have much more discrimination against males in their arsenal.
3. Help men. I also do coaching. Men are starting to organise.
4. Never hire a women. Affirmative action? In favour of males.
Hi PR,
I remember watching a video clip of a woman computer programmer, who I think was from Russia. She told this audience that she would not hire female programmers, as she said that most of them were lazy.
I don’t feel aligning young men to be TOLD they need to join a group of likeminded immature males as the direction I want to go. I’m sure your European perspective allows you some misunderstanding of what this article is about. I don’t actually think this is a political discussion at all. Also, I’m not sure you can write off the amazing accomplishments we in the US have made to progress women in our society. We’re not there yet, but damn. There’s some pretty impressive ones out there ! Good luck putting the Goddess back in the bottle.
Once again, as we see from PR, the shadow immature masculine has a message. This is the topic we men need to be having with each other. Come in guys. Let’s step it up.
Shadow immature women in Congress, aka feminists, made sure that three times more taxpayer funds are spent on breast cancer than prostate cancer. Think about that at you next annual physical.
1. You reply with insults. Its a pitty that you lost the chance to win an argument with ideas.
2. What is not political? Gender? Gender has been the most political issue for 20 years?
3. Who are taking about writting off anything? Hace I said anything of that? What the hell has my message do with writting off anything?
4. I want a liberal state where people can act freely. Gender quotas, affirmative actions and DEI are NOT liberal.
Liberal in the original sense: freedom. In the sense of Milei or Trump. Not in the sense that Democrats use them.
Democrats has destroyed one of the basis of "liberal" democracy: the Government CANNOT align with a social group by discriminating other.
Im pretty sure that, as an Euroean, Im more educated than you in history. Lets me illustrate you:
We figth 200 years ago for THE SAME LAW FOR ALL.
DEI, gender quotas and affirmative action has destroyed that basic and primary principle.
So, before calling names to someone, please, learn a bit more.
I voted for Biden but never got the sense his administration was particularly concerned with men's issues during our The Future is Female zeitgeist. Trump's victory was at least partly fueled by the gendered backlash to this progress. Gender without ideology isn't too much to hope for and yet gender and power remain intertwined.
I can agree with this. I can see an argument for gender and power being intertwined. But I cannot see an argument for it being one sided (I’m not suggesting that you are, just noting). The only real power a male has over a female is physical. After that, females control most everything.
If a husband wants a very important thing from his wife, he must do what she says. If a male is favored in any way in society, it is seen as automatically misogynistic, as we’ve seen in biases among teachers towards females.
There are some domains in which males have power primarily from possessing positions in which power is axiomatically inherent, or at least appears that way.
So while gender and power might be intertwined, it seems to be either a) balanced out by various domains in which power is occupied by one gender while simultaneously having other domains occupied by the other gender, or b) if not balanced, leaning significantly in favor of females.
Politicians can ignore boys and men's issues and face no worries about re-election. The research is clear that moral typecasting, precarious manhood and other factors are playing into this and no one cares. We will likely trudge forward without compassion for boys and men until that shifts.
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Who brought to bear upon society the ideology and politicization of gender? You need to declare yourself openly against feminism Richard, feminism is the reason why these things feel so hopeless and ideologically stubborn. Feminism is the cause of the needless division that prevents the sorts of action you spend your time advocating for. Just SAY IT, loudly and unapologetically.
Curious Lance (imaging what feminists would think of your argument). Wasn't feminism really just a reaction to male dominance in so many areas of the economy, politics, etc.? Gender wasn't politicized until women began asking for equality (still an ongoing fight).
Former feminist Janice Fiamengo disagrees with your claim. Take a look at this article: Feminism was Never About Equality.
https://jeweleldora.com/janice-fiamengo-feminism-was-never-about-equality/
On Janice's substack, https://fiamengofile.substack.com/, you can read about her journey from staunch feminist to non-feminist.
And, if men really had power, they wouldn't account for 80% of suicides.
Feminism, as such, is an ideological branch of Marxism that conceptualizes the historical and contemporary relationship between males and females as a dialectic of “power”. In other words: the fundamental claim, and belief, of feminism IS that the best interest of men and boys are antithetical to, and deleterious of, the best interest of women and girls. Ergo, I declare feminism to be EVIL, and I make no apologies in doing so.
Interesting. I have met a few angry feminists but 98% of them just seem to want roughly about as much power as men have had since the dawn of time. Many are particularly keen on raising healthy sons. I always learn a lot by asking them their thoughts on how to raise strong boys. None have ever said make them more like girls.
Funny how I don't see any feminists demanding that women be required to register for the military draft, or that men gain reproductive rights.
Most men have never had power, there has always been a smaller aristocracy and the vast majority a working class.
When women say that, they're referring to the top CEOs, athletes, entrepreneurs - who had to put forth an effort (aided by their good genetics, too, of course)...
Also, these working class men, working laborious jobs ... While the woman was a homemaker and the queen of her own property...who is really the privileged one?
You need to read Esthar Vilar's book, "The Manipulated Man"...
You have it backwards.
You can view it an entirely different way, but you only cling to one perspective.
The Myth of Male Power by Dr. Warren Farrell is also a good read.
Men labor and toil, women benefit from it. That's not women being oppressed.
These modern women are also bitching about a past that they were never a part of either, why behave like you are being treated poorly based on your interpretation of the past? This post modernist feminist man hating way of viewing the past makes many women actively hate and abuse the men in their lives. Don't deny it.
@feral librarian
Thank you for pointing this out.
Men need feminism too because feminism is the idea that we all have it within us to be the universe is calling us to be, regardless of what society tells us to be.
There area lot of people who comment here using a lot of long Latinate words 🙄 to tell us what feminism is... who are just mad.
Be mad bro.
Feelings are not harmful in and of themselves
"We are more often frightened than hurt; and we suffer more in imagination than in reality." - Seneca
Which is what I spend a lot of time telling my boys because frankly it is the only way to fight male grievance culture.
Seneca? A feminist who knows Seneca? Fucking unheard of. What’s your deal? And why do you not recognize the folly of feminist ideology?
@lance
Maybe spend some more time with the Stoics?
Ask yourself if you are getting the results in life that you want.
That we are not given complete control is to our mutual advantage, so that we might learn to live in a community of equals. To get angry at something means you’ve forgotten: We always die, and we’re all equal at birth and death.
– Marcus Aurelius
Men don't need feminism.
Feminists, democrats, republicans have never once tried to give men the rights that women have.
Boys and men don't own their own cocks. Circumcision is violent child sexual abuse and trauma, and a lifelong damage to sexual fulfillment. Women have so much sex positive everything, a woman's sexuality is seen as valid and no one dare question it.
But a man's? I hear some feminists even make posts approving of circumcision because that's how much they hate males.
Europe knows better, Japan too.
Any parent that mutilates their son does not deserve to have a son. It's child sexual abuse. No argument about it.
There is never a reason to circumcise, even phimosis can be cured by wearing a stretching device. You can stretch your earlobes to the size of dinner plates with gage earrings...you can stretch your neck ... you get the idea.
Also, dumb misandrist Americans don't know that uncircumcised boys have the foreskin fused to the head of the penis at birth on purpose by design - that is the equivalent of the HYMEN but for boys, it is meant to protect the penis. It starts to retract around age 10.5 on average (swedish study).
Americans don't know this and they forcibly retract the baby boy which injures him, causes tears and damage and results in scar tissue which reduces elasticity which leads to phimosis.
Americans are literally retarded when it comes to knowing anything about the natural male body and the natural SUPERIOR unmutilated penis.
Men need men's right activists, not feminist who don't give a shit about them or who actively hate them and want to restrict men even more through their any male laws!
Men need men to represent them, but current men in Congress serve women mainly.
Men need their own equivalent movement that women have had.
Men have no reproductive rights, women can abort, men are forced into fatherhood and into child support. This is sexist inequality.
Feminists will never ever represent men and fight for men to get the same privileges and protection that they have.
It is a zero sun game, there is finite money, attention and time to go around.
This is obvious.
Also, the male only draft needs to be abolished, right now, if you don't enter the draft at age 18 you don't get to have a government job, federal financial aid for college (most scholarships are for women only anyways...is that equality? No.) , even drivers license can be denied.
Feminists, republicans and democrats as they are now will never try to right these wrongs
Don't get me started on garbage marriage law either, which just enslaves men financially.
Men are not privileged but gaslighted into thinking they are by all people, regardless of the political party.
You don't know any of this, because you never cared enough to understand. That's how I know you're sexist misandrist and self centered.
Men need to organize and fight for equality.
We don't need feminists, we need ourselves.
Please, don’t speak to me of circumcision. I was 19 when I first realized the markings on my penis were scars, the damage is done… and my parents love me, they meant no harm by consenting to the mutilation I was subjected to.
Also. What “power” do women lack that men possess? Aside from physical strength?
Good question Lance (BTW I'm just a white guy with a few degrees who's doing well economically - thinking of changing my handle to Hardcore Moderate). I respect Reeves immensely but where I still struggle is his zero sum game stance. I think politics is just a ten dollar word for power and ideology is just what helps us justify the power we have. If I woke up female tomorrow I'd be pissed that I didn't see myself represented in the senate/house, on corporate boards and that I made 85% of what men did (not to mention my limited power to terminate my own pregnancies).
Circumcision, the male only draft, women can abort, men are forced to be fathers or be in child support for 18+ years.
Women have more rights than men, love how you say it is ongoing fight for women's rights.
Bullshit.
You're a fool.
If women were getting mutilated vaginas, forced to be in the draft and forced to be mothers everyone would be crying a river and rioting.
You're a damned hypocrite or maybe just really really dumb, why not both?
Tired of insincere misandrist posers like you.
Yes, there are more men than women in our legislatures but the question is not a simple "what percent of the lawmakers are women." The question is who do the lawmakers work for? Do tjhey focus on serving women, men, or both. Just a very quick glance at our laws shows clearly that our male legislators are passing laws that favor women. But still people moan about not having women in the legislatures. Go figure.
You have a “few degrees” and you don’t know that the “wage gap” is a myth. 🤣 Isn’t that so typical? A college “educated” person who doesn’t understand basic economics… or indeed, basic principles of nature.
Also, for the record, abortion is a way for men to avoid responsibility for their sexual hedonism… naturally therefore, more men than women are pro-choice.
Additionally, men have fewer “reproductive rights” than women do… whatever the state they’re living in, He doesn’t have a “choice”, whatever She decides, He is on the hook for it: both financially and psychologically. You don’t seem to ascribe much agency to women, which is a common trait amongst “feminist men”.
Perhaps you have a group of reasonable friends who are identifying themselves as “feminists” because they’re unaware of the philosophically misanthropic reality of the ideology. We might call such people “feminists in name only”.
What are some of their notions about raising strong sons?
The obvious answer to raising strong sons is to have the bio father closely involved with the boy. The research is totally clear on this and shows the myriad of problems that arise when dads are not present. But what have feminists fought for? More child support and getting fathers out of the home. Anyone who doesn't believe this needs to go and talk with someone who has been lobbying for shared parenting and ask who is stopping this from happening. They answer nearly 100% of the time lawyers and feminists. Check out Janice Fiamengos substack and read about this issue and how feminists have been struggling to remove fathers from the home for a long time. They believed that women could not be free if the nuclear family stayed intact. They openly write about it but no one reads their writing, they only read the "feminism is about equality" BS.
How dare you! How dare you presume to say that men have a unique perspective! How dare you presume to say that men have something unique to offer! How dare you presume to suggest that men are as essential to the condition of humanity as women are! How dare you presume to say that men and boys aren’t disposable, obsolete, monsters!
HOW DARE YOU!!!
- Incredulously, a feminist reading the perfectly reasonable things you’ve said.
Generalizing and I think Michele above can speak directly to that but they are surprisingly reasonable things (many seem to be character and integrity qualities) like learning: not to be afraid to take risks, to listen well, to feel before reacting, to move towards their fears, to apologize when wrong, to stand up to bullies, to respect women as equals, etc. (As a man I'm thinking things like: can you postpone gratification, tolerate physical and emotional distress and provide comfort & support.)
You're just describing reading a boy to tolerate discomfort so things they're afraid of, respect and support women...sounds like you just want boys to grow into subservient masochistic beasts of burden.
Where is the respect and compassion for men and boys?
Circumcision is emasculating degrading violent blade rape.
It's worse than rape, because most rapists don't mutilate the genitals of their victims in too of the rape.
Men and boys need to start being more self serving because they haven't been given equal rights over their cocks, they have no reproductive rights, women can abort, men are slaves and have no choice but to pay child support or else he is a "dead beat", but a woman that aborts isn't considered a loser at all?
Teaching boys to respect and serve a class of people that are treated far better than them, many of which actually hate them too, what a fucking joke.
Then there is the dog shit male only draft and garbage marriage law and gynocentric family court and misandrist Duluth model of domestic violence and the misandrist title 9 bullshit in college.
You're a naive misandrist dunce.
Great piece as usual. Just going to add from some young voter interviews this past year, that the lockdowns adversely effected a lot of high school junior and senior guys, that would have been up for sports scholarships, had their seasons and training not been cut (or cancelled completely)… that’s going to affect them for the rest of their lives, and is not really talked about
No. Its NOT that. The problem was exams stoped. And females teachers had freedom to put grades.
And when you let females teachers to put grades, they grade girls better.
The same happened in England.
Hi PR, I interview voters as part of my job, and spoke with first time voters in 2024, who had been juniors or seniors in 2020, and more than several of them told me they *personally* lost potential scholarships, because their training and seasons were interrupted. No one mentioned tests, but then, this is America, athleticism is a ticket to college for many young men… more so than an exam would be. I’m not sure what went on in England.
It is not only that, I meant. Look for date of England and schores of the A leves during the pandemic.
Yes massive grief & loss for young people who had trained for years to either play in high school or college and lost the opportunity. They lost both their tickets to college and in many ways their tribes and identities. A friend of mine's high school son built a tiny lap pool in their garage out of tarps and extra lumber so he could keep swimming in hopes of swimming in college!