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So glad you keep emphasizing the power of caring adults connecting with - and staying connected to - the boys in their lives. That will definitely will be a big focus of my upcoming book with @Joanna Schroeder, "TALK TO YOUR BOYS."

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Mr. Reeves, you have the ability to analyze piles of data, and then connect on a human level. That is a rare gift indeed. Your voice is desperately needed to share the plight of men and boys. Thank you.

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Congratulations ! So important your message reaches the individuals and the people who can shift institutions and the world of ideas.

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This is one of THE most important conversations we should be having. As a women who has been dedicated to the many causes related to elevating and empowering women, I am also the mother 11 year old twin boys. This is a sociocultural issue that is now being exploited and our young boys are being targeted by figures like Andrew Tate and others who have figured out how to prey on them and the fear that they are feeling about their place and role in society moving forward. My boys are only 11 and have already come to me and their dad with worry and anxiety that they aren’t going to be needed or there’s not going to be a place for them. The dark corners of the internet are pouncing on this and telling our boys that women “hate” them and trying to convince them the only way forward is violence and dominance at any cost. It sounds crazy but I’m seeing it. My kids, thankfully, talk to us (their dad and me) and it makes me worry so much for their future and the future of all young men.

Women have made progress and it’s certainly not over. It must continue. There is still so much fight to be fought but we will be foolish to do it at the expense of the next generation of men. We cannot forget and leave them behind.

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This really caught my attention, Jamie "My boys are only 11 and have already come to me and their dad with worry and anxiety that they aren’t going to be needed or there’s not going to be a place for them."

You highlight the tone of what boys are feeling based on what they hear/pick up around them.

So glad your boys talk to you and your husband about this.

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Outstanding!

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Jan 26, 2023Liked by Richard V Reeves

Thank you for taking the time to share some of the responses. Our teachers, policymakers, and so many others need to let our young men and all men know they are necessary, that their contributions matter. They are not toxic; they are terrific. This is exercised in real policy actions that improve the lives of young men. Not at the expense of women. A commitment to the believe that the future is everyone.

We see you boys. And you rock!

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I definitely see this in my research on older Americans too. What we forget is that companies brought women into the white collar labor force primarily to reduce labor costs as the economy grew and cto omply with 1973 EEOC legislation and not to promote gender equality. The irony of what then was unleashed is great lesson in the anomic intent of capitalism itself.

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