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Brad's avatar

I love most of the perspectives that you share here, but I have a strong reservation with the argument that helping men helps women too. While I believe that's true, I also believe that making that argument is problematic. In effect, needing to use that argument is a de facto admittance that helping women and girls is more important and more worthwhile.

Struggling men should be provided support when needed because they are humans with emotional interiors and bodies with sensations. Full stop. No further justifications needed about how it will benefit women and girls too.

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Paul Joannides, Psy.D.'s avatar

For those of us men who are therapists and sex educators, it appears that less than 20% of the new therapists/psychologists we are training are male, and most of us can count on one hand the number of young sex educators who are male.

The trouble is, I'm pretty sure that if I were a teenager today and had access to all of the amazing videogames and free porn, I'm not so sure I would have graduated from high school, let alone have spent years in graduate school.

I think sports is still an important avenue for boys and young men because it at least gets them off their phones and requires them to relate to others in real life—a problem that college instructors tell me has become increasingly real for young men today. They are finding that many of their male students are lost without their phones and don’t even know how to have a conversation with women in real life.

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